I say no a lot. And I’m not saying it because I’m lazy or because I don’t want to; 9/10 times it’s because I can’t say yes.
I’m very busy. I’m working on putting my business together, I’m working 9-10 hr days at my day job, I’m learning another language, and I’m trying to squeeze in a life somewhere. As much as I would love to say yes to things, a lot of the time I can’t.
And I think it’s so important for people to realise that it’s absolutely OK to say NO.
It doesn’t make you a bad person, if anything; it probably makes you an even better person! If you’re constantly saying yes to everything, to picking up this or that job/errand/ favour, you’ll be exhausted and have absolutely no time for yourself. And when you can’t look after yourself, who’s going to help you look after YOU and those you’ve been running around after?
People who hear yes from you often will continue asking you for help, because they will know they can rely on you. And as great as your reliability and commitment are, it has the potential to cause you to hold onto some resentment, and that can be very damaging to yourself and your relationship with the other person.
So if you’re genuinely exhausted, if you don’t have the time or if you simply just don’t want to; say NO, and don’t feel guilty about it!